As I scrolled through Instagram the other day I came across this and needed to share it.
Here are a couple of facts:
You don’t have to tell your best friend everything. Go back and read my article on this very thing and how damaging it can be to a relationship.
Weigh the consequences of having a friend pissed at your boyfriend for something that has nothing to do with her…you’ve already kissed and made up but she’s still stinging.
Having that third wheel in your relationship is not fair to your partner.
There’s an old saying:
…If they do it with you, they’ll do it to you.
Go back and read that.
If your “friend” is telling you everyone else’s business you can bet she’s sharing yours too. Don’t be a party to discussing other people with your so-called “friend.” That will solve one issue.
And if you don’t want your business out there….then don’t supply it.
A person who feels they have to go and tell everyone else’s business is lacking something in their own life. It’s really very sad but it can do a lot of damage and is inappropriate.
You need to realize the power of your words. They can change the way others treat someone else as their view is slanted.
Imagine if that third party were your mother in law…..This means that your hubby is telling his mom things about you….is that okay? Is there a line that can be crossed? What is it?
I once spoke to a young man who told his mom everything and as a result the mom disliked her son’s wife. When trouble came (who saw that coming?), the mother bad-mouthed the young woman (the mother of her grandchildren!) and the marriage broke up. Surprise. Surprise.
That’s a true story! Sad, eh?
I certainly feel for that young woman. She didn’t stand a chance in that family.
There’s no need to involve other people in your friendships or relationships that don’t belong there.
Learn when to keep your mouth shut. Turn the tables and put yourself in the situation and ask yourself how you’d feel. Be truthful. And for God’s sake, be respectful of your friend or partner. Your mother doesn’t need to know about your sex life. We have, and set, boundaries for a reason.
Your best friend doesn’t need to know the details of every petty fight. I’m not saying you shouldn’t talk when you need to, but pick your listener carefully. Ensure they’re not judging and going around telling everyone else your business.