This straight forward piece of advice is powerful and a reminder that you do have a choice.
Auntie Lesson:
Whether it’s a toxic relationship or friendship, sometimes it’s best to cut ties for your own mental health.
The people you choose to keep around you should be a positive energy and light in your life.
Choose wisely. Know that it’s okay to change your mind. xo
I remember well the day I realized I enjoyed my own company more than the company I’d been keeping. (Outside of my marriage which, obviously, had it’s own issues.) It was a revelation.
I’m so happy you found that power within you to choose for yourself. Liking your own company is so important as your journey progresses. ((hugs)) my friend. Thank you for taking the time to stop by and comment. So appreciated.xoxo
Taking charge seems to be a good theme for today. 😉
You bet! it’s a good theme for ANY day. lol…Thanks for stopping by and commenting. oxox
Great advice Faye! Sometimes we don’t realize how much life force is drained by toxic relationships. It’s always a good time to evaluate our relationships and be sure that those we interact with are ‘enhancing’ our lives.
Hi Laurel. So true. And there doesn’t even necessarily need to be “enhancement” so much as “no drain”…does that make sense? xo
absolutely
Thanks Beth! xo
It is obligatory to keep some people around. The worst part, they tend not to leave space for those that can help one grow. Slowly they die off. The last one ? well, yes, cut the cord. Growth is never too late. Keeps one young.
Wise words. And yes some (like family) can be difficult but distance –physical or boundaries drawn can make a difference. If people are sucking you dry then it imperative to step back … but I do agree with you Marianna that it’s not easy with some…change at any time is tough. xo
Sometimes its hard to break those ties, but you are right on the money with this advice. May I add to it people are who they show you they are.
Billie you’re so right. If it’s family then it’s much more difficult but boundaries can help. Even that can be so hard for many–And yes, I agree with your words…people do show their true colors…what’s the saying…fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me….It’s tough tho when the toxic energy is a parent or child…. so many stuck in that cycle.
My mom and I have a hard relationship. It’s hard I just keep her at arm’s length kind of and remember I can love her without her loving me. I can control what she does, but I can control my reaction to her and the things she does and I can have boundaries, as you said. I say no to my mom a lot.
Billie
Stay strong my friend. I’ve had a similar relationships. Often their ignorance and/or anger isn’t aimed at you but lands on you with all the burning ugliness it comes with. Been there. I applaud you for stepping back for your own mental and physical health. Saying “no” is a good thing. Stay strong. xoxo