Are you Familiar with Mel Robbins?
I first tripped upon Mel Robbins’ work on Audible. Her book was free for one month so I scooped it up and plugged it in to listen.
Well, I certainly wasn’t disappointed.
Mel Robbins is a loud, enthusiastic speaker who likes to drop the odd f-bomb and tell it like she sees it.
She’s smart. A bit bossy. Sometimes over the top. But also full of compassion, wisdom, first-hand knowledge, and wisdom.
Mel, is a motivational speaker, author, and podcaster. Here’s the start of her Wikipedia page.
Melanie Robbins (née Schneeberger on October 6, 1968) is an American podcast host, author, motivational speaker, and former lawyer. She is known for her TEDx talk, “How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over”; and her books, The 5 Second Rule and The High 5 Habit, as well as host of The Mel Robbins Podcast.Wikipedia
So Here’s Why I Ask…
I recently saw her on an Instagram reel.
Now, I’m not here to toot Ms. Robbins’ horn. Not at all. I just like her straightforward approach to the world and her admittance to her own flaws like anxiety and avoidance.
Anyway, here’s what she said on that short Instagram reel.
There are three things that you must come to terms with in life. They are:Mel Robbins
- If they wanted to, they would have.
- No response, is a response.
- Not everyone has the same values, the same goals, or the same heart as you.
So Simple. So Direct.
These three things really resonated with me.
I think the first one is the hardest to admit because it deals so directly to other people…
If they wanted to, they would… Oh how true.
As we wait for answers or action from others, we forget that if they really wanted to do whatever it is we require of them, it would have been done. There would be no waiting or broken expectations.
When this happens, and we’re waiting, it wreaks not only of desperation, but of rejection and lack of self-confidence.
We need to trust ourselves more and appreciate the simple wisdom that others do have the ability to show up for us, but it’s their choice. We can’t do anything about it.
The second one: no response, is a response, is on each of us.
It’s saying we need to listen to our gut, know when to step back, and allow others their boundaries.
To push someone to answer/respond is asking for possibly something they can’t give. That’s not fair. No response, is a response.
The third is another simple reality that we often forget or push aside to ram through an agenda.
Face it: Not everyone has the same values, the same goals, or the same heart as you.
Others may not be as passionate as you are about a subject, or care about education or money.
If someone tries to derail your goals, shame you in any way, or disrespect who you are as a person, then walk away. People who will treat you like that are not who you want to be with. Trust me on that.
You may think you know someone only to see a different side of them in a time of crisis, stress, or even joy.
Individual thought and choice are something we need to consider as we jostle our way through our lives.
While there’s shared experiences, there’s also private backgrounds and prior realities that make each person a unique and special package.
So Simple yet Not So Simple…
Even knowing these things, we forget three simple things as we go about our daily business.
Often times you’ll fail to see the person behind the personality, or an intention within a request.
It’s okay. Don’t fret. Life is complicated and moves fast. You can’t be expected to sit down and check your notes about what you **need to remember **.
Nah, live your life.
Do your best.
These three simple facts of life can be revisited at any time. They can also surface in your memory when an incident calls for it.
Be you. Talk soon.
Thank you for stopping by to read my post. I hope you enjoyed it. Follow Below.